The line where friendship and affair begins to blur is with secrecy. This I learned from that awesome book "Not 'Just Friends.'" If you feel uncomfortable sharing this information with your spouse then you shouldn't do it. This is where to draw the line. If you want to deflate the whole thing, talk about it with your husband, maybe mention this guys problems and then tell him how your husband thinks he needs to do "blank and blank."
Anything you can't share entirely with your husband needs to be stopped and avoided (except shopping of course!!!! I still sometimes sneak packages in when he's not around....not that he can't see how much clothing I have in the closet....).
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
