hi Cat, I am behind also, out of town.I will have to get the book,Battlefields of the minds.Sounds like a good one.Thanks for recommending it.I believe no matter how long your married it is always good to work on M.I used to think it was crazy when people said "you have to work at your marriage",i always thought my M was easy.Boy did i learn.My eyes were opened.If you get too comfy,things seem to go awry. I read where someone was e-mailing you? Be careful,they sound lonely,and you are lonely yourself.My H tells me,if anyone hits on you "I want to know".I don't know if i would tell him though or not.That is a tough one.I think they worry sometimes that when they had affair it will send us running to do the same.I think we know that we are least likely to do that bacause we know what it feels like and we are so Anti-affair at that time.My hardest time was the first year after A.It was still so alive in my mind.After we survived a year ,you start believing that maybe it will work.Then later,it is hey this is working.God Bless you,K
