Maybe this isn't the best advice, but as I said, when it comes to health, all cards off the table and you take care of you.
You are being stubborn in not getting tested. That is plain silly. Go get tested and then again in 3mo. Do it this week, no exceptions, no excuses. I will not talk to you on this BB if you don't do that. This is your health, no time to get stubborn and play games.
Also, be matter of fact with H. If he does not agree, then you don't sleep with him. Just say that this is non-negotiable. If he wants to reconcile, then you both show each other a clean bill of health and start over. No blame, no harrassing, it's YOUR HEALTH. What can he not understand about that.
Of course he feels guilty, but STD's are an equal opportunity issue, A or no A, guilt or no guilt, whatever. At the end of the day, you've still got it.
