In answer to your comment, about how the LBS is supposed to react...well I guess it depends. Most of us totally lost it, which is a normal reaction, but once we settled down, then what?
That is when we need to maintain our self respect, and our dignity and not stoop as low as the OW.
She is not worthy enough to kiss the bottom of my shoe, BUT she is not my problem, and in your situation, she is not your problem or your Husbands either, she is history.
If you go looking for trouble, you will find it and it will stir up old memories and cause you more problems.
Focus on what you have NOW, not on what happened or what you lost.
By the way, I understand why your burned the book, but you had no business being in your Husbands private items and definately had no business burning anything. I can assure you he will not be thrilled with this. I would suggest that when you are confronted you are very remorseful and apologetic and vulnerable about your feelings.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
