Please stop the drama. You haven't even given it a chance. You keep calling him and that just adds more pressure to him. Stop calling him and he will start wondering why you aren't and start calling you. You need to let him wonder what you are doing. Let him think you are moving on without him. That is what will get him to come around more. It is the challenge that they like. Right now he knows you are waiting and that he can do anything he wants. Sure it makes you mad but he knows you will get over it.
You need to give him something to fight for. Stop calling him at once. Don't call him to give him updates on the kids. He will call you. Each time you call him, it puts you back 2 steps.
If you don't want a divorce then you need to step back and just let things be. He won't think you have given up on him all together. You need to let him go in order to get him back. It takes time. It won't happen over night. It took almost a year before my H stopped being so angry. Now, we get along pretty good. We are learning to be friends again. You can only take one step at a time.
The one thing you need to do though, is to stop the drama. You are driving yourself crazy, he isn't. We have all been there. The drama will not get him back any quicker.
