Thanks Lizemba . . . I've wondered about being "too available" but he often commented how he felt that I wasn't there for him. Or that I didn't want him to come back. Or that I didn't really love him. He felt like I had moved way past him and so he'd give up on me. I'm worried that the LRT method of going dark might make him call but take us steps backwards in that he'll feel I don't care for him anymore.
If he doesn't come home this weekend as he is suppose to I will stop calling him altogether. If he does come home . . . and things are good . . the urge to call him will go away because I'll have some sense of what he wants.
I'm working on it guys. Go ahead and rip me a new one about detaching if you must. Maybe eventually I'll learn
