Thanks HG, that is exactly what I was looking for. I've come to realize that my insisting that she end the A really does not do me any good. The only way to make this work is for her to independantly decide to do that. Ergo my question about guilt, what little things can I do, indirectly, to make her REALLY think about what she is doing so it looks like I am not confronting.
Anyone else? Come on folks, let's brainstorm here!
