Whatever you decide to do, IMHO you should do nothing until

- You are calm
- You have a desired outcome in mind
- Your action(s) will produce the desired outcome

If you need to set boundaries, whatever, wait til you're calm, positive, and strong.

You don't know why he called, etc. Don't assume.

If she saved it knowing you'd have access to it, could that not be a positive sign that she's not trying to hide anything? I don't know, just asking.

You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'