Well look what the cat draged in. Good to see you WF. Sorry to see your back posting, but at least it for better reason than last years.
I have a few suggestions. #1 read 5 Love Lanuage. #2 Have you been able to talk to her about whats bugging you? Maybe she's not interesting in ML, b/c she doesn't think you want to. There is another book that I found helpful. Something about After the Affair, I can't remember the whole title.
Something I noticed about DBing, is that there's not alot of info on the aftermath. We have been on such rollercoaster rides. We all have managed to detach from the situations during that time. We have been taught many new skills. But we have not been shown how to forget all the hurt and the pain. 4/10 times my H and I ML, I still get nasty thoughts in my head about his OW. We've been together, Strong and happy for 16 months now. It gets better all the time, but thanks to family and friends, and H, I will never be able to forget about this experience. I'm still dealing with it. But I have found that if I'm more open about how I'm feeling with H, he's alot better about helping me through whatever. Personally, I enjoy when H tells me whats going on, b/c we're a team. Just like your W and you. You need to do whatever it takes to make love exciting.
