Hi WAWfighter, I too left the BB once my WAH returned home and it went sour fast and I realized I needed to stay here more than ever to keep it going. I successfuly DB'd also and he was only home a month before saying he was re-thinking his decision. Anyway, I continue to DB and that seems to be working again.
My suggestion for you is to maybe offer to rub her shoulders or something in the evening. It will seem innocent enough, you can say that she seems stressed and sit down and you'll help her relax. Preferably do this sitting up in bed after the kids are tucked in so you can take it to the next level if she allows it.
It's a good way to touch her in a non-threatening manner and although it may not morph into sex the first time you do it, it'll help build a foundation and show her that you are being physically supportive with no expectations. Of course you'll have to have major self control but hopefully not for long!
