OK, a quick refresher. Married 12 ys, S9, D7. April 05 W comes to me and says, completely out of the blue, there’s another guy, she doesn’t love me, and we’ve been roommates for the last several years, yada yada. We go back and forth for several weeks until she moves out in June and gets apt., begins seeing OM regularly. Entire summer is major roller coaster ride with her going back and forth with her feelings.
I start DBing with a vengeance with the occasional setback. In August, she files for divorce. In October, comes to me and says she made a mistake, did love me, and wants to come home. Basically says that she went crazy and OM was merely a distraction. Tells me that she came back because no matter what she said or did, I was there for her (DBing does work). Promises she’ll never leave me again.
What happens next is written above. I think she has built this very large wall around her heart and is very leery about letting me back in. (I think she has real abandonment issues as all this was predicated with her mom passing away.) I’m slowly chipping away at that wall, I think, but could use some help.
