Hey WAW, good to see you and even better that you have good news
I was a regular visitor to this site all last summer (in Infidelity section) and consider myself a success at DBing, now I need some help in following up. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
What I would love to see from my H is recogntion, sincere realization, that he had issues that contributed to the state of the R prior to the A. And, equally important, that he is 100% committed to changing for the better.
I would also want to see boundaries from him and see him enforcing them with me because I wouldn't want to feel like I could walk all over him....since I am no longer doing anything 'wrong' I would understand completely the need for certain things to occur to rebuild trust. Confident, gentle and FIRM boundaries would reinstate my respect for him. So would compassion.
How people react when they are under fire is a great reflection of their character. Think about what you want to convey and be true to yourself.
As a side note, take a look at the Alpha Male 101 thread. There is some good stuff in there.
Welcome back, I'm happy for you.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
