Good luck. Good for you for identifying your goals. I only mention mediation because many people assume that you must go through this horrible litigation where you prove how horrible the other person is and the court decides everything. Maybe, you will be a family together or maybe you will be a family separately but your child will always have both parents and both of you will have to get used to continuing to be in each other's lives to some degree forever (after 21 there are still grandchildren, holidays, graduations etc...). Hang in there Heather.
