Afterall...This IS my Life

[heatherg]

I should probably clarify that the SA that I am referring to really only addresses custody, so perhaps it would be most appropriately called a custody agreement. I don't care about the material assets, if he won't let me take anything, then I won't. I'm not going to fight about that. I only want an agreement on custody/schedule, etc so that I can MOVE OUT! In the existing papers, I have given him exclusive use of the home and 50/50 custody with no child support paid by either party. What more can a father ask for?! I'm amazed that his lawyer is not telling him to take that deal and sign it before I change my mind.
At this point, I don't see where mediation can help as we're not disputing or arguing over anything. H just says he disagrees, but won't say with what exactly. A mediator won't be able to make him speak any more than I can, kwim?

When I say cooperative, I don't mean doing research to help me out or anything, I mean being willing to *discuss* options. I don't know what more he wants....I told him if he would tell me what he finds faulty with the papers, we can talk about modifying them. But, if he's not willing to tell me what he finds questionable, then I'm not going to waste my time and money by trying to guess what loopholes he's referring to. This is just more of the same on his part, non-communicative BS, trying to make me 'figure it out', just like when I had to 'figure out' how to show him that I was sorry for my betrayal. I'm done with that game, that's why I'm LEAVING, ya know?

I probably need to try to schedule a time to talk to him. It busts my chops that I need to beg him to do what's in his own best interest. But because it's also in the kids' best interest, I will try again. If I have to drag our issues through family court because he will not cooperate, I will be seeking primary custody, obviously with very liberal visitation, but it won't be 50/50. I'll probably also try to stay in the family home if possible. I guess I need to let him know that upfront. I just hate for him to cooperate now just so he gets what he wants, and then make co-parenting a nightmare going forward because he won't cooperate or discuss decisions regarding the kids later on.
What do you guys think? Do you think I should tell him that my agenda will change considerably if he continues to be non-communicative or do you think since I've told him I intend to 'move forward' that is good enough?
UGH!!!!!!