Hi Heather I was compelled to jump in here and just wish you the best. It is a difficult but often rewarding road. I also was going to recommend a good book on separation but I just cannot think of it right now. But, there are several excellent books on dealing with separation and kids that I'm sure you can find at your bookstore. Obviously, some pointers would be tell the kids OFTEN that they are not responsible and that you both love them very much. Another no brainer is do not fight in front of the kids or put them in the middle. Sounds like you and your H were doing that quite a bit so you need to stop that asap. I made lots of these mistakes when H and I separated but if you can avoid them, all the better for it. And Lou and others are right, sometimes you can make more progress when you least expect it. I thought for sure I was getting D and now we are working on the M more than ever before. Sorry folks, but the sex is still lacking. No good news there. Anyways, don't want to invade your thread but just wanted to say I still think of your situation and everybody's on here, even if I don't post like I did before. I hope everyone has a wonderful holiday season. LFL
