I am so sorry to hear you've reached the end of the road. I feel like I am in a very similar place right now. Kudos to you for coming out and saying it - right in the middle of the holidays and all. I am getting ready to lay my own cards on the table with my H. I will do it right after the holidays.
I've been off the boards for a while, but lurk from time to time. I really don't think there is much more you could have done Heather and when H came out and said you treat your S6 like sh!t that's just too much. I know how you felt, H has said similar to me. It is just so NOT true it beggars belief that they can come out and say such things. It makes you wonder whether they feel guilty about the way they treat the kids, you know by being manipulative and using them for their own ends rather than trying to maintain a standard. Or whether some of it is to do with projecting, replacing S6 with himself so he thinks you treat HIM like sh!t but says it is s6. I do think your H almost wants to relive his childhood through your son, so there must be stuff that he wants to replay differently and when you step in the way of that he gets angry and comes out with this kind of BS.
Congrats on making your purple stripe! take care
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
