Last night, I asked H why the change in temperature with affections and he said he could have asked me the same thing. I know this is a deflection and I pointed out a couple of times I was affectionate and he did not respond at all. His excuse was 'You caught me off guard'. WTF? I also pointed out that he started being nice to me before we ever even left for Annapolis and I told him that I was suspicious of his intentions and he told me that it's mostly being back and our power struggles over things like S6's bedtime. He said it puts a 'rift' in things.
Last night after I was already asleep on the couch, he came over and tousled my hair and said 'good night'. Then this morning he put the kids in the car and went back in the house without saying goodbye to me.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."