I agree with what you say, I only feel Heather has a lot of pent up resentment, as does her H, that is blocking their growth. In my experience, books like this do not seem to focus on the root problem, but are meant to wake up the woman (and they are almost exclusively written to women) to the abuse they are taking and fight back. That is a necessary step, but Heather has already been doing that for some time, with no gain to show for it. So I do not think that is the core of her problem.
