Afterall...This IS my Life

[Burgbud]

So, for her to know, but not know everything feels really cheap.
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You say that like you're disappointed in me

You're in a tough sitch and it would help to develop some thicker skin. My guess is not as many people are judging you as you think.


I'm taking it day by day.

So, I decided to really try to give him what he's said he needs.

I'm struggling to rectify the idea that you're taking it day by day but at the same time you're in the M with both feet. It doesn't matter what I struggle with, though, what matters is that you're clear about it so that your life has direction. Are you clear on how you're in the M with both feet while at the same time taking it day by day?


I'm half way through the movie 'What the Bleep do We Know?!' and it's really interesting. I read the book "ONE" by Richard Bach many years ago and it was a good preface for a movie like this one.

I enjoy Richard Bach's books very much. I was looking into that movie some months ago but some internet research on Ramtha and JZ Knight made me cautious: Wikipedia entry


There is a major difference though as you get to limit the effect Steff has on your life now that she's no longer in it on a daily basis.

Heh. If only.

The reality, however, is that there's little difference. We can both limit the effect our partner has on our lives (in your case, from within your M...I'm not talking about leaving). Doing so costs us something. We either pay that cost or deal with the effects. Getting spun up because these people are still who they've shown themselves to be time and again isn't good.

I don't know what to tell you about his drinking. Others are much more in tune with that issue than I am. I'm sorry that's on your plate along with everything else.

Good luck, heatherg.


Oh, and I meant to include this before, from a post Corri made in another thread not long ago:

"You are not powerless, Lou. Neither is Hairdog, or any other person here. We just all, for our own reasons, limit our own choices, by our own CHOICE. And then we get pissed at our spouses for it."

That goes along with the saying, "You can have anything you want, but you can't have everything you want." You choose to stay in your M (a decision I'm entirely neutral about, btw...it doesn't have anything to do with me...my 'rescue-y' days are over ). Now make your thoughts and actions consistent with that decision.