It's not odd that your C's would put YOUR happiness 1st, they are seeing YOU afterall...not you & your children. You are there for them to focus on you, not someone else.
As for her comment about (She expresses a great deal of concern about the 'abnormalcy' of H being able to live with me and not want sex to the point where he continues to turn his back on me like he does. She said I am young and beautiful (ahem, yeah ok, lol) and hasn't met too many men who would be able to live in the same house with me and not want to be sexual and intimate.) Took me aback...she obviously hasn't met Mr. GEL LOL However, it's true Mr.GEL has issues that go way back. I'm sorry I forget...does your H see this C as well? If not he should be...so she can get a much clearer picture.
& No I don't believe asking your H about the ring & sleeping arrangements in the new house is pressure, it's also clarification for yourself....it's also you stating how you view things. You've made mistakes...but I also don't view it as reasonable for him to expect you to commit to a big financial decision like this AND continue the way things are right now. You have every right to express your view on this new endeavor as a new beginning for you two and to express that you two also try to start your new beginning by #1 wearing your rings, & #2 sleeping in the same room.
That's just my 2-cents. Oh & heather...I would suggest to you trying the excercise I posted on Cobra's thread too...you need it I think.
My e-mail is anitam at nordam dot com...use it anytime.
