Yesterday my 11 yr old went to SIL house for a Christmas party. SHe was a little worried because Grandma was going to be there. D11and her sister have lost all trust in Grandma throughout this whole mess because she didn't stand for them. 16 refuse to go but 11 wanted to see her cousin. SIL assured 11yr old that Grandma was going to be on her best behavior. THis did not happen. As soon as she got their she had an attitude towards Chelsea and really railroaded her, Placing the blame on me and accusing these girls for distancing their mom. Chelsea defended herself to her grandma to the verge of crying. Went and locked herself in the bathroom. Cried herslf to horse until SIL went to get her. SHe called me to be picked up. I came and Grandme just gave me dirty looks. I shrugged them off and was as pleasant as I could to everyone else. We left and Gradme wished uus a Merry Christmas. Chelsea turned to her and said "what do you care?" We walked out after that. Chelsea told me the whole story. I was pissed. I asked her if she wanted me to do something about it and she said "no. I just don't want to see Grandma anymore"
SIL later called me and said how sorry she was for Grandma actions and words. She told me she layed into her and of course Grandma defended herself. SIL told her she probably lost any chance of being in these girls lives and that she really needs to look at herself and realize shes not part of the solution.
Grandma has believed everyone of XW lies and is still defending her. Even though in the begining, She said how much of a good lier her daughter is. Admitting that she has a problem, but still takes her side of this sit.
Its sad to find out the people you once loved could be so cruel in this time of crisis.
I don't know what else to do but be strong for my kids. I want to come across to them that the actions of my kids are not the result of me, but of their own doing. How can I do this?
