2 weeks since I called XW and told her not to contact girls. She hasn't. and things are somber with the girls, So many reminders of their mom and they are so heartbroken. Oldest asked me again what they did to be treated like this. I told them it's not them and that its her. She's living a fantasy life and all shes doing is thinking about her. They wanted to know why shes getting married. ITs been just a year since she hit me with the bomb. they feel shes moving too fast with all her decisions. Had No answer. All I could say is that shes being controled by BF, and he's pressuring her to do what he wants.
MIL is still trying to be apart of girls life, seems the guilt of what possision she took in this whole mess is getting to her, girls have some resentment towards her and are keeping her at a distance. Of course everyone is blaming me for this. Their not saying it. but I can tell, Body language. oldest D asked her how mom can get married right away after such a short time after the D. MIL told her that she got married after just 5 months of dating with grandpa. This woman is still backing her D. and the kids do not like it. Knowbody on that side is critisizing her for what shes done. They've all accepted it and are OK with what shes done to us. They all say there hear for the kids, But there actions do not show it.
Im trying to be stable for these girls. The emotions from them are overwhelming. Im still hurting and seeing them hurting is too much for one person to handle.
I wish, for 1 day XW could see what shes done. Feel what these girls are going through. Experience their pain. But since shes 1000 miles away and has No cantact with them. This will NEVER happen.
