Im trying to GAL with my girls and XW keeps pulling us back in emotional state. SHe called the girls after weeks of no contact and told them she and BF are tying the knot, wanted the girls to go to the wedding. Girls were devistated. They do not want to goand told her this. AFter the phone call I seen they were destroyed. I called her and told her she has to stop all contact and let these girls heal, she was moving too fast for them and its doing nothing but hurting them more. SHe told me to mind my own business and she'll do as she pleases. Told me I was putting all sorts of things in their heads and thats why they have nothing to do with her. Told me if I don't le them come to visit, she'll get a court order forcing them to go. I asked her if that was in the best interest for the kids and she replyed that she has rights to see her children. After so long, she keeps blaming me for everything. Is taking NO responsibility for her actions and feels everything is my fault.
I told her she was the one who abandon her kids, SHe blamed me for using the word abandon. I said these kids have their own minds and come to their own conclusions about issues concering her. SHe again blamed me for feeding negativity to these girls. I knew this was a losing battle and got off the phone. I can see i will get knowhere talking to her and told the kids that if they do not want to see her, that their is NO court that will force them. Its been 1 year since the bomb. She is still blaming me for everything. saying the same old things that she said in the begining. How long can I expect this to last? SHe has No idea what shes putting these kids through. They have to accept her decision and not question it. IS this right?
