Many wise people on this list have stated that this time is a gift. It has been a year now for you since the bomb. What have you done during this time for you? It doesn't sound like her R with the BF will last long. She will hit bottom. You have survived your first year and the next will be better, if you let it.

I think they do think of the kids constantly and possibily us but the guilt and crazies are in the way of contacting. My H does ocassionally reach out to my DD. She ignores him though. He hurt her too much right now for her to forgive. Maybe someday but that is between them. (btw, she is 15 years old today!!! agghhh, - how did that happen and I am only 20 something - well in my mind ) Focus on you and the kids and have fun and enjoy them. It sounds like you had a great summer with them. I tend to think my H is dead and that makes it easier for me. Someday he will rise and then I will have to figure out what happens but until then I will enjoy my life.

OK, zen bookpusher going to go to party with F1 (at least board party - hangovers are easier to handle virtually...gotta bday party with DD in real life and have some fun today!!!

Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.

bomb: Jan 25, 2006
not seen since
DD moved in with H - 9/1/08
H filed for divorce - 11/2008
Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010
still nothing