Keeping the road home paved and smoothed is a good idea but it is a very long road. So stop focussing on your w. You need to take care of you right now. You cannot do anything for her. She needs to figure this all out on her own. Treat her as a friend and she will be comfortable coming to you but I can't stress enough that this will take a lot of time and patience. The only way to survive this is to detach and work on yourself. No pressure, do not initiate anything with your w. Keep it light.
