Me 44 W 42 Married 20 years. 2 girls 11 and 16 Got the ILYBNILWY speach 09/05 Moved into MIL house 10/05 Filed for D 11/05 Found about B/F in Dec. SHe moved to Ga in April 06 The big D in Aug After looking at everyones posts And research this forum, I really beliece the XW is in a MLC. All signs point to it. I know now that has been pulling her strings from the git-go. HAve heard hes a control hound and Xw has been pursuaded into this. He got her a job where he works. They live in an isolated area in Ga. She has NO contact with any of her friends. and now SHe doesn't even call her Daughters. My question is.... What is she doing? What mother abandones her own kids? A couple months ago I agreed to let 11 yr old go down and visit her. SHe did nothing to show her a good time. made her stay in the house while they were at work and one night BF assulted her where XW did nothing to protect her. D demanded Mom to send her home the next day. @ days later. D was home. I filed a police report on the assut charge, and Xw only respond was how upset BF was that D did this. Phone calls have now compleatly stopped. The kids miss their Mom and I have run out of excuses for her.
A week ago I sent a link to her stating that our favorite driver in F1 was retiring. To my suprise. she responded with some positives, Also told me that her Aunt in Italy had a stroke and didn't think she was going to make it. Said her Mom was their and wasn't going to return till it was over. Thank me for the F1 report said Bye. I wrote back telling her how sorry I was and asked her how she was handleing it, told her that her Mom needs all the support that we can give her and Asked her for an address where I can send a card. She wrote me back thanking me for the support and telling me she was hit pretty hard by it, said she had no address but will try to get one for me, then she talked a little about racing and that was it. Nothing since.. I don't want to read into anything, but it seems now that the divorce is final. shes opening up to me a little.
These e-mails were all sent thru her work. I don't think Bf would let her communicate with me thru home computer.
Sorry for the rambling. Im trying so hard to let go. I see my kids hurting so much and I hurt along with them, Don't let them know though, Dad has to be strong.
I know this MLC takes a long time. Shes been in it, I think about a year. What signs should I be looking for to see if this is ending soon? I know Im hoping too much... I don't know What to do any more.
