Quote: Andrew, You didn't seem to want to answer my first post, but I feel the need to ask you another question.
I tried to answer your question in my next post - the answer was that the situation has been the same throughout our marriage. No better or worse when our circumstances were any different.
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What have YOU been doing lately to make her feel sexy??? To feel like she can bring these things up & to take away the daily hum-drums of taking care of the house, children and you.?
I've been telling her I love her, that she is my queen, that I desire her and think she's beautiful. I've been helping with the kids (getting them up, taking to school, putting to bed) and doing housework chores here and there.
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I hope this works for you... but seriously, until you realize you can't control her feelings (which is what you're trying to do), you're not going to get what you need.
She needs to get there herself... not you pushing her towards it.
She tells me she does feel sexual sometimes, but doesn't know how to express it. It's a great big inhibition for her. This is the crux of the problem - the inhibition (as well as the LD). I told her that for the sake of our marriage, she needed to work on overcoming it, and doing some things that were outside of her comfort zone if necessary.
