Quote: I hope this works for you... but seriously, until you realize you can't control her feelings
I don't think he's trying to control her feelings... well, he is, but what he's really asking for is a change in behavior and hoping that the change in feelings will follow. Anyone can change their behavior, no matter how they're feeling. Mojo had a great post on that, about how regular sexual interaction is one of the rituals of marriage that keeps it going, like eating dinner together, decorating the Christmas tree, greeting each other at the beginning and end of the day, attending church together. Even if you don't feel like doing it every time, these are RITUALS that the marriage needs to distinguish it from other more superficial relationships.
