In answer to the second-last post, there was some verbal abuse in our relationship, but no physical abuse.

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As Christian husbands, we're obligated to love our wives as Christ loves the church. It seems to me that while Christian wives ought to be understanding of our sex drives and accommodate us as best they can ...




Yeah. I've been trying hard to do just that recently - that is, to really love her in special and practical ways, so that she knows how much she is loved.

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It seems like what we should really want is to do our best for each other. If we're submitting to each other in that way, what could be more satisfying than that?




That plus awesome sex?

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I guess it's kind of like the difference between getting your wife to go to a pro football game with you vs. getting her to go, wear the fright wig, paint her face the team colors, and dress like the mascot.




Good analogy!

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Maybe for right now you could both agree on weekly frequency and commit to making it the best experience for both of you. After a while, she might be more open to the extras???



We have pretty much done just that. But, there is still something missing: the feeling that she wants it for its own sake, instead of just to please me (appreciated though that is).

As for the extras, I doubt she will ever be open to them She is pretty prudish and 'proper' about things, whereas I have a much more open view (which she sees as a deviant view).