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What type of baggage?
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Anger and fear of intimacy. Much therapy has mostly resolved these.
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Why did you separate?
A situation (not an affair) that was the culmination of a lot of issues that were poisoning our marriage. The time apart did us good - we were able to sort through a lot of things.
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Who initiated the separation?
She did.
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How long were you separated?
Nov 05 - July 06. 8 months.
Quote: Did either of you engage in another relationship of any type during the separation?
She did. She dated someone and had a one night stand at one point.
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How much of your desires have you discussed with your wife?
All of them, even though it's difficult. She sees any of my fetishes and "out-of-the-box" activities as being perverted. I won't go into them here, but if anyone wants to know, PM me.
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If it has been discussed, how often and what was her response?
It's been discussed many times over the years. For the longest time, her only response was anger and resistance to change.
Recently, I laid it all on the line for her, and let her know in no uncertain terms how unhappy I was with the situation. She then accepted that she had an issue, but still blames the way our relationship was. That excuse is wearing very thin now that most of the issues are resolved.
