Quote: here's the issue...I don't want to just start saying no and become one of those dreaded LD wives but I don't think I can continue to let things go this way.
So, don't!
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How can I address the issue with h without being met with the "you'll never be satisfied no matter what I do" response. In his eyes...I'm getting what I had always complained about not getting...trouble is in my eyes I'm not...it wasn't just about a lack of sex it was about the lack of physical intimacy (cuddling on the couch, massages, hugs, long kisses that lead to nothing but a warm feeling that maybe you'll do something about later that evening etc, talking, connecting)...
I wouldn't address it with words, because you're probably right - based on what you've written about the steps he has been taking toward meeting your needs - he probably will feel that he can't win with you.
So, keep your mouth shut. Don't discuss it.
Just take what you want/need. Do with him what you want him to do with you.
Want the sex to be less mechanical? Then step out of the routine, tell him to kick back - you've got some things you would like to do - and proceed to do them.
