Thank you for the post. It actually sounds to a degree what my H and I went through 17 years ago. He had an affair and like a whirlwind filed for D. (Our kids were small then.)I went through the whole sitting around waiting for him to wake up thing back then. He treated me particularly callus one day and I guess I snapped. It only took one incident to snap him out of his 'I want to be single' phase. I went dancing. (And had a Wonderful time, btw)I had made friends with some other 'single mom's' in the apartment complex and they invited me out for 'ladies night'. Going to a 'club' and going dancing was something I had never done. And I had been undecided until he ticked me off that afternoon. We had such a good time we extended the evening till two am. It was a surprise when i called the babysitter to see it the time was okay with her, it was, and then she informed me that my x had been calling all night. And the later it got; the more frequent the calls. Honestly, it made me laugh. He even showed up at my apartment at 3 am to see if I had a man spending the night. What a wiener. Like I would do that with my two kids sleeping in the other room and me sleeping on the pull out sofa! Then he cried. Soon after we got back together and have been doing good till now.
Today I was reading an article on mens MLC. It described my XH to a 't'. One of the suggestions for the partner/wife was to do your own thing but don't alienate yourself from him. Which is like the story you posted. This weekend seems like a very good time to start. I mean, what do I have to lose? I'll keep you all updated!
Corri,
Thank you so much! So much of the time I DON'T feel normal. I feel like I'm just going off my rocker! I will work on all that you suggested. As a matter of fact the day you posted your suggestions I was looking into some Writing clubs. Why is it so hard to find yourself? I mean really? At 46 you would think I'd know that! haha
