Quick recap of the last day or so. Sunday saw OW calling SO - I once again overheard part of the convo. He was telling her to stop calling him; he was busy, blah, blah - more of the same sarcastic nasty attitude. He was working in the garage and told her he was busy and would call her back, plus the phone was dying. She must have started screaming at him that she was going to come to the house and confront me - he told her to "knock off your crazy sh!t" and if you do that "I'll never speak to you again". LOL She also must have asked him to meet her somewhere and he said no, he wasn't going anywhere and he things to do and he'd call her back when he had time. She must not have liked that very much. His friend, who was helping him, brought the phone into the house to charge it and the stupid little twit called back (and hung up) at least 16 times before I finally got po'd. Well, I was PO'd before that, but I was giving the kids baths and couldn't do anything about it.
When I got the kids settled, phone still ringing, hanging up, ringing again - I finally went downstairs and called over to SO. I said SO, can you come here a minute, I need to talk to you about something. Very nicely, very politely. He came over and I said, "She keeps calling here." He said "Don't answer it." I said, "Im not, but you don't understand, she's called at least 15 times and won't stop." I said, "I can't have this - I turned the ringers off, but WTH, is she psycho? I've got kids up there." He said, "So pick it up and tell her she's being disrespectful." I said, "No, I'm not getting involved in this. Then I'll look like the [censored]."
He came upstairs and of course she called again. The answering machine showed 24 messages (it registers hang ups). He took the call and started yelling at her. I stayed out of the way, he went to the kitchen and out the back door. D3 had followed him, he was yelling at OW to knock her crap off and simultaneously trying to get D3 to leave the room. I heard him say, "Do you think NM is EVER going to let you near my kids after this? She's already asked me if you're psycho. You're being disrespectful. The kids are here, yadda, yadda...." This must have set her off again because he went on some more...I just went as far away as I could.
I didn't hear much more, I know he yelled at D3 who ran crying and hid under the table. I had to coax her out, and yes - made a smart ass remark to SO about it, then took her upstairs for bed. He got off the phone while I was upstairs and came up to say goodnight to D3. He started with me, but I looked at him and said "not now."
When I got downstairs, he was back out in the garage. He wrapped it up rather quickly after that and his friend left and he came in, showered, and I assume called OW from the bedroom, although it had to have been pretty short. When he came out, he apologized profusely saying "I'm sorry about that, you don't need any of that." All I said was "it's OK. Well, it's not "OK", but, it's all right." End of subject.
Today he's emailed as well as told me again a couple of times that he was sorry. I told him that I saw it as something I couldn't understand. We never did that to each other and it made me feel bad. All he said was "I don't take any sh!t".
I'm putting this stuff in because I really find it interesting. No, I don't think it's going to change anything, but it alters my view of how "they" get along. And it does make me feel bad. Like something is really wrong with ME for him to choose that over me or something. Whatever.
I also figured out she's got some kind of game going on. I know he calls her when I leave to pick up D3 from school, but she doesn't answer. Then, she calls back at her convenience - then gets pissy when he won't answer. And it goes on and on and they fight about it. Kind of stupid if you ask me. I mean the whole convo in the kitchen last night was 15 minutes of them arguing about WHY he couldn't to talk right then. Nothing else. WTH?
Don't know why I'm wasting my time writing this. It's not like I dwell on it anymore. Just random musings, I suppose. But, from the sidelines, I can detach and see "their" patterns. Just observing, and making mental notes is all.
