GH, This is where I am right now too. (BTW, I have moved over to the piecing threads). Everything seems back to normal, is this good? Although I don't believe that it can be the same as it was because I am not the same as I was pre-bomb. I do not take my H or our R for granted anymore. I am more spontaneous and happy. Because of my new job, I now have more adult friends, some of which I introduced my H to this past weekend. This past weekend I also initiated , which is something I haven't done in years. So I guess what I am trying to say for you is that things really aren't the same because you are no longer the same. Anyway, I'll take "normal" any day over what we had this past year.