You know, I was kind of in her same place - could stop drinking in the evenings 'any time' and did't want to be labeled a 'loser' for taking anti depressants.
Two things my counselor said made a difference.
First, she pointed out to me that our brains are complex chemical systems, like any other part of our bodies are. If we had an ulcer we'de take medicine. If we had cancer we'de get treatment. So, why is it that if we have depression - which is just another PHYSICAL ailment of our bodies that has a psychological side effect, why don't we get 'medicine' for it?
Second, alcohol is a drug. It happens to be capable of high levels of physical addiction. We NEED it after a while. Doesn't thaty PISS you off? It pisses ME off that my 'fun' drink became addictive.
Alice Cooper once said in an interview that he drank a lot before and during concerts, but one day he was drinking a lot and realized that his 'fun' had become 'medicine'. And he quit drinking alcohol. Just like that.
Yes, she CAN quit anytime. Just like I could. The question is when will she be PISSED OFF enough at this substance, and how she has allowed it to get such a level of control, of NEED in her life.
A strong personality like mine, and like hers, can get to the point to where you'll decide that you WILL NOT allow your body and brain tobe 'sick' and addicted, and that you will take care of healing yourself by not drinking for 90 days, which is the least amount of time it takes to break an addiction.
For me, it's almost a year. And it was because I was pissed. No AA, no 12 steps. I am in control of my life and my body was ill, so I took care of it.
Try explaining this to her. Ask her if she want's control. And, does she listen to Alice Cooper?
