OT, I am not trying to get you off this by saying I already did everything you say...but I did just about that. I DID answer her in the PAST, SEVERAL times when she would bring up this idea of somehow drinking her problems away was better than perscription medication. I gave her the list of pros and cons. Maybe not as extensive as yours but the gist was the same. She ALWAYS takes such things as me acting like her father, as if ANYTHING I tell her from a position of "I know this and you don't" is somehow condescending. Maybe I come across that way, dunno. She says I do. I am trying in that respect. This time I would have just been repeating myself and I didn't want to do that. I am tried of saying what the difference between anti-depressants and her current depressant of choice is beyond the obvious that one is taken under medical supervision and the other, well, not.
I have also expressed my frustration at her not getting help, and in this specific case, I left the topic by saying "I am not going to bug you about this. You say you know what you need to do and you now have the tools to do it. It frustrates me that you aren't going to do it. I don't know what else I can do to encourage you. It's up to you now."
I was VERY careful not to be confrontational because that would have done no good. Been there, done that for 10 years and here we are. She accepted what I had to say and still managed to say "I know I need to do it..."
For some reason, she's hinted that her brother who died was into pills of some sort, she's DEAD set against any kind of drugs to help her problems and the more I say about it, the harder her position seems to get. All I can hope for is that she keeps going in the direction she's going in now and that eventually she gets to see someone who can dispell some of the urban myths (as I think most of her info is) that are preventing her from really improving her life.
As it stands, I THINK this will happen but not as quickly as I'd like. Oh well, I am used to being patient and I will do it now too.
That all said, I will take your advice and once again, in a "good" way, try to address at least the doctor's apointment issue with her today if not the meds too. We'll see where that goes.
