Well, I'm not sure that use of antidepressants would count as an "addiction," but for the sake of argument, why trade one addiction for another? I say you give your W an answer.
An addiction to alcohol: 1) Damages your body. 2) Impairs your judgment causing you to make decisions that hurt yourself, your children, your husband, and your M. 3) Leads to actions that can cause serious injury and death involving yourself, loved ones, and others. 4) Creates and sustains depression. 5) Continues to progress and worsen as a disease over time with devastating consequences. 6) Creates an unstable and unsafe home life for your children. 7) Will probably lead to the end of your M if alcohol continues to be her chosen coping mechanism. 8) Makes one less and less functional in all areas of life over time 9) Makes her look haggard and old. 10) Leads to day-after regrets and hangovers that make one's life a life of lost time, shame, and sorrow.
In contrast, an "addiction" to anti-depressants: 1) Is likely to improve your health as you have more energy to exercise and eat better. 2) Unclouds your thinking, allowing you to make better decisions that affect yourself, your children, your husband, and your M. 3) Help you avoid actions that can cause serious injury and death involving yourself, loved ones, and others. 4) Alleviates depression. 5) May lead to not needing antidepressants at all. 6) Creates a stable and safe home life for your children. 7) Will probably really help make your M the healthy passionate R you both want. 8) Makes one more functional in all areas of life over time 9) Makes her look younger and happier. 10) Leads to a happy, productive life that one can rejoice in.
So, take her question seriously and give her your own list of pros and cons. Maybe she can come up with her own as well.
BTW, there is a difference between not nagging her about the meds or getting them yourself, and directly sharing your reaction to her not getting her meds.
"I am very disappointed and angry that you have not gotten those meds yet. I was very hopeful that you were in a place to move forward on some of your issues. But now, because you have not taken the steps you said you would, I feel very frustrated."
Anyway, please do say something. If you don't, it will come out in some other far less attractive way.
