I sound like I am rambling, but sounds like you are still on eggshells around her. this needs to stop, for your own sake and sanity. I did it for much too long, and to be honest, unnecessisarily so.
Actually, this is spot on cupcake. Thank you. Now that you say this, I really think one thing that has changed DRAMATICALLY in my R with my W is that we DO get mad at each other but it doesn't become this festering thing that permeates our R for days. This is especially true for me. I have learned to get angry, express myself and then MOVE ON without having to beat whatever the issue is to death.
That is what happened with all that stuff two nights ago and yesterday morning. By last night we both got it out of our system and were fine. Thanks again for your words, they really helped.
UPDATE:
W was REALLY sick last night. It always happens when she drinks as much as she did Sunday night. I was actually ready for it this time and FINALLY she went to see a doctor who basically said she had Panic Disorder and perscribed a med for that AND a sleep aid which should help a LOT. I can't say how big a step this is. We have been sitting in the doctor's office and walked out so many times. Finally she followed through with it. She was also honest with him about her drinking and he said it played a role in what was happening to her. She needed to hear that.
Anyway, today is a new day and I'll try to be egg shell free!
