I tried to respond the other day and after I wrote a long post my computer froze.
Anyway, I appreciate and am always open to suggestions - especially from women who know what I am going through, at least to an extent.
I guess my only way of focusing on H's strengths is by NOT focusing on his weaknesses (for the most part). If I can, I will say thank you for something he has helped with - like putting together S4's new bed the other night.
It's strange, he has been "nice" to me for the past week. He emailed me and wished me a "wonderful time" at my parents house for Christmas, and in another email wished for a "smoothe evening" for me. Weird! It kind of scares me I guess because the nicer he is the more I believe he's making peace with what he's doing/done (and is moving on with the Ow). I quess I still want him to feel guilty and ashamed of his infidelity and irresponsible decisions.
Anyway, I'm anticipating a difficult Christmas emotionally, H will take S4 out Christmas Day and no doubt spend it "playing house" with Ow. It's so hard!
Well, I am super tired...
I hope your holidays are bright.
Take care...
Monica
My sitch: Me 40 H 30 M 8 yrs 1 S5.5 Bomb Oct 2005 Sep Nov 2005 H w/ Ow I filed for LS June 2007 H responded w/ D 2007 I have sole P custody, joint L Just need to take care of Final Judgement papers
