Moving Forward

[S.T. _I Made It!]

I'm glad to hear from you. And it's good to see that you are doing your best and are getting thru this. I'm 99% sure that at some point in your H's life, he will look back on this and think he is the stupidest guy in the world. I wish it were now though.

Perhaps this goth thing has become like a cult or something for him.

Hey, just wondering, I'm sure your the only one who asks if H wants to be with s4, and I would love to hear how you approach him with these questions. Maybe there is another way that you can do it?

It is very selfLESS of you to talk to your s4 how great his dad is. That would be so hard to do. Has your H ever heard you saying anything to s4 about him? I ask because the best way to get someone to change is to focus on their strengths. So maybe if H is picking him up, you could mention something about H that he has been doing good at. Not sure if there is anything good he is doing right now, but you could probably find at least 1 little thing?

Of course, you may just want to let all this stuff go. I probably shouldn't even offer suggestions for you at this time, sorry about that. Especially after just agreeing that you need to focus on yourself and your s4.

That is good to hear that you can get a legal S without the D and it still benefits you as one.

I hope they break up too!!! My mother in law told me during my H's A, that a relationship based on lies will never work. I believe that they WILL NOT live happily ever after.

What a blessing grandmothers are! Do go find a great sexy outfit you can impress yourself and others with and a special gift for your little boy.

and don't worry, you will get thru this and have the ability to accept it all and move on. In some ways, part of us doesn't want to move on, I can feel that in myself sometimes, but harboring all the negativity and sadness will destroy us so we must move on. And we can. And we will. And someday you won't have the negativity and sadness be a part of you anymore.