I totally agree with what you said about having high vs low expectations of H. I think my H - in some way - wants me to have low expectations so he can feel off the hook. But I don't want to let him off the hook. I've thought of suggesting he only come on Sundays thinking that would be easier on him to show up, but then I say to myself - no way! He needs to be held accountable as a father. For me there's a balance. When he cancels at the last minute I get so angry, but I just try to keep my comments simple and to the point. This time I asked him to call S4 and explain and then tell him when he was going to visit next. Unfortunately, that next time was supposed to be tonight and instead I got an email at 1:30pm saying he was sick. My S4 was very disappointed and acted out a lot in the evening. It just gets so tiring being a yo-yo.
I am almost always very positive about S4 to H. I tell him about all the great things he does, the friends he has, and generally keep the "negative" stuff to myself. I mght tell him that S4 cries and misses him, but not very often.
Well, I am so tired. Lately I feel I never get enough sleep.
Btw, where is your thread?
Monica
My sitch: Me 40 H 30 M 8 yrs 1 S5.5 Bomb Oct 2005 Sep Nov 2005 H w/ Ow I filed for LS June 2007 H responded w/ D 2007 I have sole P custody, joint L Just need to take care of Final Judgement papers
