I do believe that it is good for them to see their parents show emotion. When we do though, we need to not blame anyone for our sadness, and as you both said, show them that it is okay to cry or be sad sometimes and that is what family is for, to help make the sad person feel better.
It's so tough when children are involved. When they are so young, the less they know, the better. It is just too complicated for them to understand. All they need to know is that their parents are working on a problem and that they both love them and care for them.
The other thing is that they need to see that good things can be learned from these emotions. If they continue to see us sad and depressed, it will be an unhealthy lesson they are learning. They will also feel that they are a part of the unhappiness, because they cannot make their parent feel better, or their parent is never happy with them.
I wish you both happiness in the days to come and pray for reconciliation for all who are strugling.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
