You know, this job loss could prove positive. IMHO I think he really needs to hit rock bottom and would also say that if it does come to him beggin for help from you... please don't help him. He does need to face his own consequences and FEEL it. I think you need to be compassionate, but he needs to get out of his hole by himself.

That would be really tricky because you don't want the OW to do everything for him, but if you say she has no car, maybe she will also have no means to help him so he wouldn't be able to use her that way. BUT let me express that you shouldn't take this advice unless you've really thought hard about it and researched here as well.

I'm glad to hear your using prayers to get you thru it. God is watching over you and he knows the good that can and will come out of this when it is all over. Keep using Him as your support and He will get you thru, because we humans are all unreliable,, and He is never changing and will always walk with us.

God Bless,

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."