Good for you in standing up and preventing H from trying to introduce Ow to S4 on the sly. What a jerk. No, they have no consideration for our feelings. The ironic thing is that if the tables were turned H would have bad things to say about you. Stand your ground. Ow just wants to have one more thing of yours to bond over with H. Let them have their own child together if they want to be such a happy family.
My H did not grow up with a father. Still does not have a relationship with him. I tried to mend it when we got married but personalities have just not allowed for it. H is also the construction type, very macho and strict with S3 and all the other stuff. If I do not prevent H from being overly harsh with S3 his disciplining would be considered physical abuse. But as H's morals leave much to be desired (ie Ow) then he can't really be judgemental towards anyone including S3. You lead by example. Ironically, because of how H's father was not there for him he always said that he would never be that kind of father to his children. But how could he not be I guess. It is all that he knows. But he thinks that he is a great father because he always sees S3. It takes more than that. You need to live in the home to show S3 what a happy, normal family life is all about. After all why do you think S3 is so attached to you. He knows you leave every night and he wants you to stay. But I guess him asking if you are coming right back or when are you coming home daddy does not move your heart of stone one bit.
Oh the trials and tribulations of WAHs. And yet, we still love them and want them back with us.
Last night after I told H that he was not welcome to come in my home as he pleases he came back and still hung around. Then he leaves and calls me at 3:30am in the morning asking what I was doing. (He seemed pretty sloshed, which is highly unusual and scary actually since H does not drink ( a beer very seldom) or smoke.) I guess he was not happy with my new rules. But if I make you unhappy you should be happy to be released from feeling that you are obligated to come by. You've been with S3 from 1pm (after school) until I come home from work at 6:30pm or later. Is it really him that you are here to see/be with? I guess that shows that for them they really are confused. As I say, the fog, the fog.
