Quote: I think that whatever is going on with him is deep and has nothing to do with me. He'd like to blame me and our R for his current troubles, or blame me for actually not trusting and respecting him now, anything to avoid taking responsibility.
Yes, remember that everytime you wonder how your M took this turn, he is in true denial and at this point it is his disatisfaction w/life and not /w you that make him act the way he's been acting. I used to ask questions to my H and he'd answer me and I got unexpected answers, to what he'd say (without being mean) "it wasnt' all about you, I wanted to live the way I used to"(apparently there is a good deal of not-so-good stuff that I don't know from his past.
About his mom, I'd say something but not the whole thing, just mention he isn't feeling good and stuff, the poor lady will feel powerless and won't be able to do much from far away, but he does need to talk to othe people and have some support, it sounds like he is very depressed.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
