I think your stance of not being sucked into his agenda was right on. It is no longer your problem, his choice, so you are just helping him stick by what he has said.
How is it that they want us to have pity for them under the circumstances and yet choose to be oblivous to what they are doing to us? Well even if we don't shove it down their throats like the good Dbers we are we don't have to encourage their taking advantage of us wanting to hold onto our marriages.
How is S4 doing? I always say to myself that S3 seems fine but I know that he isn't. He is really defiant of me. He knows that daddy leaves every night so he waits until he is gone to do whatever he pleases. He is unnaturally atttached to daddy (of course that is a result of being left all the time) and unnaturally attached to mama because I'm sure he is scared of me leaving him like daddy does. In fact he has started some weird behaviours like rubbing and smelling my ears. Of course if I were to mention this to H he would get all defensive and accuse me of blaming him for this??!??!? So I make sure to give S3 all the love and reassurance that I can. Make sure that you do the same for S4 and you too ktf for d7.
Trust me our Hs will regret the alienation of their children for many years to come if our sitches don't turn around.
Anyway, I hope both of you and all Dbers reading this have a great day.
MAF “It’s not what happens to you, it’s what you make of it.” --Zig Ziglar
