It is so great having this forum to come to and get REAL advice from women who KNOW. Thanks!
H finally responded to my email this morning (at work) after 3 days of no word. His excuse: he was physically in very, very bad shape. He kept trying to get me to "take the bait" and feel sorry for him and ask him what was the matter - but I just kept the focus on the deposit he was supposed to do in my account and whether or not he was going to visit S4.
He lied and said he had deposited my support money on Saturday when actuality he did it today. He shorted me $300 as well (according to what I thought we had agreed on) - haven't called him on it yet.
He said he would be over tonight to see S4 and ended up getting here about 45 min's later than usual w/ no apology. He immediately tried to get me to ask him what was wrong with him, but when I would ask he finally said "so you know, I went to the doctor and they said my blood is deficient and prescribed many supplements...they said my immune system was very bad....also, I am taking anti-anxiety medication now". I just said "I'm sorry to hear that" and that was it. I just couldn't bring myself to feel sorry for him after all the lies and hell he has put me through.
Later he told me "I only told you this just in case something happens to me". I said "ok".
It is so hard not to turn around and tell him that I really do care, but it is just too painful because it is not my place anymore. He has someone else to be there for him.
Do you think I should have been more concerned and compassionate?
I left and went grocery shopping - while driving it hit me what he said about "if something happens to me". I just don't think he gets the scope of the impact all this has already had on S4. I mean, it's terrible if he's sick, but he's already been out of our lives for a year.
I think I mentioned that I've filed for bankruptcy so I am no longer liable for the only joint credit we have. I told him in advance that this would happen and that people would be calling him. I wonder if that's why he shorted me this month...I just don't know if that's her type.
Well, I will try to steal a moment this week to call Family Court and find out what I need to do.
I'll keep you posted.
Monica
My sitch: Me 40 H 30 M 8 yrs 1 S5.5 Bomb Oct 2005 Sep Nov 2005 H w/ Ow I filed for LS June 2007 H responded w/ D 2007 I have sole P custody, joint L Just need to take care of Final Judgement papers
