Again so similar. I have told my H that I would sign D papers if he gives me the house. He refuses. Like you I want to cover myself financially since H is not contributing anything to joint bills (CC bills or health insurance for the baby which is automatically deducted from my pay and needed because S3 has a heart condition) and those bills alone eat up the balance of my pay once the mortgage is taken care off. It is contradictory because he pays all the utility bills for the house (groceries, cable, phone, Internet, water and for a full time housekeeper). All of the utilities are in his name and were connected after he had moved out of our apartment (he has never lived in this house). He also pays school fees for S3 which are very expensive. However, from everyone I hear they never continue with support payments as they are ordered once the D goes through especially if they remarry (unless you push), of course the amount is never enough and here, enforcement is almost not worth the hassle
I guess I'm lucky in some ways because at least we see him every day (we share one vehicle since we can't afford another, used or otherwise). He comes by at 6am every monring and drops me to work. Takes our son to school, picks him up at noon, picks me up at 5:30. He then has dinner at the house with us and usually leaves bet 9-11pm to go "home" to Ow. The weekends are pretty much the same although he has not been spending as much consistent time since Ow has been bringing pressure to bear. If I call his cell phone with anything about S3 he comes, no matter what time of night it is.
What I do miss is the fact that we never go out on family outings any longer (unless they've had a fight) and we never travel anymore (my parents do not live here so S3 and I always take solitary trips. He has travelled with her three times but has always denied that she went and one time I was not at home so he denies that he even travelled.) However now that S3 is in school we do those outings as a family and we regularly intereact with his family. I guess for appearances again.
What's the point of the charade. I know there is no reason to the madness so why do we even bother to try and understand.
