My H does see d7 most of the time when he is supposed to. I really can't complain about that, but sometimes he will call last minute b/c he is running late at work and won't be home in time to visit with d. What bothers me is H could see d more frequently than he does and chooses not to. He will go a week sometimes longer without seeing her. This kills me and I know it hurts d when he goes this long. I try to encourage H to spend as much time with her as possible. Because he doesn't see her much during the weekdays I would be okay with him spending time with her every weekend , but he has never even asked and I know it is b/c he spends those weekends alone with Ow. It hurts that d is not his priority. I have told H that d has to be our priority right now, but it doesnt seem to sink in. He feels he is fufilling his "daddy duties" by coming to visit her every other weekend I guess. I can't imagine seeing d every other weekend and maybe one evening each week.
My H has been threating a D, but now he talks mostly about just getting a legal S. I'm not sure why he changed his tune on this. He blames me for us not having something legal already , says I am stalling. I told him that I need to protect myself financially so I am not agreeing to anything that isn't fair. So we keep going back and forth with negotiating the legal S. My lawyer says that H says he wants a D, but won't work out an agreement with me. It doesn't make much sense to either me or my lawyer. Believe me I am not asking for anything unreasonable at all, just what I am legally entitled to. Sometimes I think H is just trying to be difficult, of course he says this about me. In the beginning I was stalling I will admit, but now I need something legal to protect myself as H refuses to pay any joint bills right now. So many things aren't being paid b/c I don't have the total amount to pay them.
My C says that you do have a right to keep Ow away from the kids. You can have it put into the legal papers . She says that until a D is final it is not in the best interest of the children to bring other people around . My C said she would even right me a letter to give to my lawyer to back it up. So yes, you do have control over whether your H can bring S4 around Ow. I guess you have to just weigh the pros and cons as they say with DBing. In doing this will I accomplish my goal or is it going to make it worse? This is something that I ask myself everyday.
