I've been reading both your posts for some time now and as you both say constantly similarities are uncanny. I am 40, 8 years older than my husband. Married 7 years tomorrow. We have a 31/2 year old son. My H has been having an affair since March 04. He moved out in Aug 04. He has been living with Ow since May'June 05, but thinks that I don't know. She bought a house in Jan 10 min from ours (he has never lived inour house we were in the process of renos when this started but I'll be d*&^^* if I give up what I worked so hard for.)
Noone in his family has met her. He does not have the gall or b&** to try and introduce her, as my MIL and I are very close. She did show up on MIL's job an introduced herself but was given a not to nice earful and a warning about coming back, so I'm sure she won't try that again. Boy to be legitimate. How would they feel if the tables were reversed on them?
No one has met the Ow who was married when the affair started. But he says all the same things that your Hs say to you. In fact only last week he said that being married to me was a hindrance to his happiness?!?!?
He wants S3 to meet Ow but I put a stop to that. I want her no where around him. She does not stand for anything I believe in although she always talks about how close her family is.
Also, she has told someone that she can't stand S3 since he is a part of me and he is rude. All second hand info on her part of course. In fact in a letter to H she referred to him as "that boy" does that sound like someone who would treat him well or even love him like their own? I think not. Stick to your guns about not having d7 and S4 meet them. It is all a show on their part for our Hs and it hurts no one but our children, the one's that Hs will put noone and nothing before.
